Hi there! I know your probably wondering, where the hell has she been? LOL…covers face…unable to give a good reason for not blogging in such a long time. The months have seriously flown by and I can’t believe summer is coming to an end. I’ve been busy just living, I’m learning every day that I have to make my health and happiness a priority. I use to be busy doing everything except taking time out to be still. At times I lose track of me because I work full time, I’m a single parent, and I’m trying to juggle multiple things in my life. I start having insomnia, my body starts aching, I gain weight, and I feel overwhelmed doing the smallest task.
When I start feeling that way, I know I have to slow down and make some adjustments. I decided to take a much needed vacation, to celebrate my birthday in lovely Miami Beach. I was able to stop in and spend quality time with family while I was in Florida. I also started back at the gym, changed my diet, and I avoided social media of any kind. I find social media to be so addictive. There is a lot going on in the world, everyone has live videos, I would find myself up really late reading about something or watching one video clip after another. Then I would get up the next day and feel like crap because I got less than five hours of sleep.
I’m so happy that the Olympics is over. I stayed up late every night watching my favorite athletes compete. Now my son is back in school, which means more to keep up with every day. I’ve been wanting to blog but I’m either exhausted or just feeling blah! I’ve been letting my hair grow back because I want to try styles that need a little more length but boy has it been a fight, I’m tempted to cut all my hair off but for know I’ll be trying some really cool protective styles.
I got this dress as a gift. Zara has always been one of my favorite retailers. I love the soft brushed denim feel. The dress is roomy and the neckline is adorable. This outfit is more of my day to day summer wardrobe. I enjoy dresses that are comfortable and practical for my lifestyle. I’m looking forward to trying out new trends for the fall, it will also be nice to change up the wardrobe a bit. What trends are you looking forward to for Fall/winter 2016?
Please enjoy the pictures & thank you!
Dress: Zara, see similar here
Hi guys! Look at who’s rocking sneakers…LOL! Seriously, I’m not a huge sneaker fan. The sneaker has to be cute in order for me to even buy it. These tropical print sneakers definitely pass the cuteness test. I usually only wear sneakers to the gym, when I’m running errands, or hanging with my son for our play dates. I own several pairs of sneakers and they last forever because I hardly wear them. In fact I had no plans on wearing these today. I couldn’t find my sandals and I was in a rush so I threw them on. I actually like this sneaker jumper combination. What do you think?
I want to challenge myself to wear more sneakers or just casual looks in general. can’t do heels nearly as often as I use to. I own a few colorful ones and I love Converse Chuck Taylor’s, Adidas Original Superstar’s, Puma Roma Basic’s, Reebok Classics, and 574 New Balance sneakers. I’m excited already to convert a few of my more dressed up attire into casual outfits, starting with this one!
Jumper: Charming Charlies buy it here
Sneakers:Buy it here
Bag: H&M buy it here
I believe in happiness…true happiness..we search for it all our lives and want it all the time because it’s hard to come by. I remember thinking that I would never be happy again. I was sick, fatigue, and depressed during most of treatment, It was difficult to even imagine a future. I use to think what is the point of planning for something down the line when down the line may never come for me. When your younger in age and newly diagnosed, everyone says your just so young to have cancer, breast cancer in particular. It was once considered a disease for older women. I’ve met women in their 20’s and 30’s who fight this disease everyday. We are a close community of women that have a common goal…beat cancer into remission!
As I stated in my previous post this month is my cancerversary..2 years cancer free. I hope to stay in remission forever. I can’t imagine a recurrence, I don’t know that I would be as strong as the first time around. This disease is nothing you can prepare for, their is no manual, no two cancers are the same, and no two individuals cope with the disease and treatment the same. I pray for my health all the time, something we all take for granted.
I never celebrated my 1 year cancerversary. I honestly thought I would totally jinx myself. The fear was still there, the horror from the whole ordeal was too fresh in my mind.This year I’ve been working real hard on building myself up, I’ve been focusing on what brings me happiness. I would stay in bad relationships because I focused more on someone else happiness. Now I can walk away and not feel any level of guilt. It’s not that I don’t care about them, it’s just that I care about me more! What steps are you taking to find your happiness?
My first step was to start doing things that I enjoy doing, even if no one else wants to do it with you. I enjoy blogging…so I blog! I like shopping and since I have a limited budget, I thrift and combine my thrifted finds with accessories and maybe one new item. For example, the dress I’m wearing was less than $22…I was shocked it fit, the only issue is the lining under it is too short, I will work on getting it properly lined inside. I love the lace design, it makes the dress. The gladiator sandals are new but with in my budget. I don’t think you need to shop all the time. I recycle my outfits over and over again.
I made my own floral crown…I really need to do a DIY section cause I’m always making stuff. I love art and that is another passion that I plan on incorporating into my blog. I hope you all enjoy the pictures and have a great weekend!!
Dress: Buy it here /see similar here
Sandals: buy it here
floral crown: DIY here
Bag: See similar here
Accessories: Old from my jewelry line
Are you wearing the wrong style jeans? I know that there are so many jean styles on the market that work for different body shapes. I personally live for high waisted skinnies because it works best for my pear shaped body. I think the trick to finding the right type of jeans is to first identify your own body type. A pear shaped body type has a smaller bust, waist, and we are more
heavy curvy on the bottom, as a matter of fact when I put on weight, it shows most in my legs and butt. I think that high waisted jeans work best for curvy girls like myself.
I love it when I come across the perfect pair of jeans. I consider the perfect jeans one that makes my waist look smaller, they have to stretch, hide belly fat, and belly bulge. I avoid low-rise or hipster jeans because they expose muffin tops and butt crack. If I find a pair of jeans that fit my hips and butt really good, it usually has too much room in the back. When I find one pair that works, I usually pick up the same style in several colors. I don’t like spending a fortune on jeans, I won’t pay over $40 for a pair jeans. I buy jeans any where I find them and I have no loyalty to any particular brand. The pair I’m wearing are Signature Levi Strauss & Co. from Walmart they cost $20.
I have big calves, thick thighs, and plenty of booty. I look for jeans that not only compliment my figure but they have to be comfortable. I don’t want to always wear a belt to keep them from having a big gap in the back. It use to be frustrating finding a nice pair of jeans that almost fit. I use to take in the back of all my pants until high waisted fashion came into the picture. I love how nowadays more and more fashion is made for curvy women who don’t wear size 4, I’m a size 10. I think more women are beginning to celebrate there bodies and companies are finally paying attention.
The fact that the word “curvy” is now used in describing a line or collection of clothing makes me happy. I like Walmart’s selection because they are affordable and they usually come in a few other colors, so I can grab more than one pair. A higher waist is a plus because you can rock a crop top, tuck the shirt in and have a polished look in in the end. I found the top at TJ Maxx, it’s a pastel pink color with crotchet design. It hangs off the shoulder and adds a feminine and sexy feel to the outift. I wore the shoes in a recent post with a rolled up leg jean style, I think they look great with skinny jeans as well. This is one trend I’m happy to see make a come back from “mom jeans” status to a more trendy, flattering jean style. I personally hope the style stays around for as long as possible. What are some of your favorite jean styles?
Enjoy the rest of the week!
Blouse: TJ Maxx, similar here
“I want to live!”
It’s just that simple… I want to grow old and see my son graduate from college, get married, and give me grandchildren….is that too much to ask for? Well being diagnosed with cancer makes you think of all the ‘what if’s’….what if the cancer never goes away? What if it goes away and comes back? Then I start looking at survival rates and it becomes, how long will I live? The truth is anything can happen to anyone of us at any given time but for some reason, when your faced with a disease like cancer, it’s like someone just accelerated your life closer to death. Thoughts of death and sickness become the ‘elephant in the room’ you try to avoid it, you pray, you try to live a normal life but sickness and death are always in the back your mind. I wish that was not the case but it is for many people fighting this disease like myself.One way that I change the focus from cancer is by going to work. I work because keeping busy leaves less time for me to think about cancer… it’s the perfect distraction. I never thought I would admit that going to work gives me some sense of normalcy but it does. It’s actually a good feeling to leave the office on Friday and know that I made it through the entire work week. There are mornings that I dread waking up, I’m usually exhausted….sleep deprived and running on fumes. When the alarm goes off I wish for five extra minutes. Then I drag myself out of bed in time to slip out the door and make it into the office. I typically take the days following my chemo cycle off just so I can rest. Chemo days run together and come with long sleepless nights. I often find myself lying in the dark feeding my soul with prayer and positive thoughts. Sometimes I lay still enough to feel the heavy beating of my heart. Occasionally certain parts of my body twitch uncontrollably, I feel my fingers and toes become stiff at the joints and I get the worse charlie horse in my calves…boy, o boy are those painful. Let’s not talk about the bathroom trips…I haven’t used the bathroom this often since I was pregnant. I have to drink so much fluid to prevent dehydration but at the same time, I think my bladder wants to divorce me…seriously!
|The side effects
tongue pain & change in pigmentation, eyebrow & eyelash hair reduction or loss, lack of sleep, damage nails
Even on my worse nights I don’t doubt that life is worth living…Thankfully I’m able push forward every single day. I can smile because I know this to be true “I have cancer…cancer doesn’t have me.” I try to be optimistic about my future even during chemo cycles and testing. It’s hard to be optimistic when I’m hooked up to bags of lethal drugs that come with awful side effects. Some days I complain…some days I cry ‘I DON’T WANT TO BE STRONG’ …. Some days I ask why me? Then I feel guilty because I’m still here…Alive…and able to enjoy a life that so many people only dream. I’m grateful and I hope to fulfill my dreams and do all the crazy things I’ve always dreamed about doing, hopefully I won’t have to continue planning everything around the disease.
|My chemo care must haves for mouth, hair, skin, and comfort
I’m looking forward to October because…IT’S MY LAST CHEMO! I’ll still have to deal with the dreadful re-testing phase to see how successful the chemo and hormone therapy was on the tumor. Keep the prayers coming because surgery is the next big thing and while I’ve been able to work through out chemo I will have to take a month or two off to heal from surgery. I imagine this will be a tough holiday season 🙁 I plan on taking some time out to visit my friends and family in CT before I have surgery…not looking forward to the ‘human road map look’. The scaring is so severe from any of the surgeries…UGH! I have been working on revamping my business and getting back to what I love to do…slowly but surely. I miss trunk shows, jewelry parties, and meeting great people all while building lasting relationships…the lyrics to the song “One day at a time,” just ran across my mind.
|Revamping my accessories business very soon!
I would like to discuss a few things in upcoming posts like, diet & exercise, support groups, and surgery and my thoughts on living life beyond the disease. I appreciate ALL of you that take the time out to support me on this journey, it has helped me tremendously!
Loads of hugs!
Hello beauties! I’m super excited to introduce you all to Karen of Your Stylist Karen from Washington, DC.. I was so happy that she agreed to do a blogger spotlight for me. I discovered her blog several months ago as a BLM group member and have been hooked ever since. I love her chic and conservative attire, savvy business style, and her daily words of inspiration. I visit her blog often and recommend that you jump on board for her motivational tips and stylish updates.
I asked her a few questions, so we could learn a bit of information about her and her personal style. Please read about Karen below and stop by her Facebook page for more information.
What are some lessons you learned as a blogger?I am still a relatively new blogger so I am learning every day. I do not have an exact plan as to where I want my blog to go. For now, I am happy adding a bit of positivity to my readers day and hopefully inspiring them in some way. I have learned that the Golden Rule applies to the blogging world too. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
How do you balance your professional life and blogging?I must admit that it is difficult. I have not actually found the balance. Each week is different and right now I am just trying to keep up.
Karen is a Independent Stylist with Stella Dot, shop her online store (here)
How would you describe your personal style?Evolving is the word that best describes my personal style. I used to have a love affair with Forever 21 and then I realized that it was time to incorporate more sophisticated pieces and invest in quality. I know the basics of what colors compliment my skin and what cuts flatter my body type. I tend to be more on the conservative side but I am open to playing with color, print and adding versatility by layering.
What are some activities you enjoy outside of blogging?I am a stylist with Stella & Dot and that takes up a bunch of my time. I love it and would not have it any other way. Spending time with my husband, family and friends takes up any other free time that I have right now.
Karen, thank you so much for the allowing me to feature you. I’m sure you all can see why I adore this bloggers style. She’s professional, stylish, positive, and down to earth. You can find her using the following links:
Thank you all for stopping by!
What a year it’s been, hard to believe this is my final post of 2012. I had lots of fun and I’m already looking forward to 2013 and the fun fashion journey ahead. I started focusing on my OOTD in late June of this year and loved it. I’ve learned so much about me by doing this online diary. It’s taught me to love and appreciate every inch of my body. At times we can be our own worst critics but I’m understanding that only I can love me so if I don’t then I shouldn’t expect others to love me and uplift me more than myself.
I’ve changed so much over the year, it’s been a roller coaster ride, I had some great times and not so great times but I’ve grown tremendously from it all. I wouldn’t change a thing because it’s made me stronger and more determined than ever before.
My Goals for 2013
- Refocus back on my first love, my jewelry business Accessories We Love.
- Continue to grow my blog through the various social media platforms.
- Work on different ways of engaging my current and future audience
- Stay focused, humble, motivated, and positive throughout the year 😉
What are some of your goals? Anything in particular you want to work on in 2013?
Which of my personal style series do you like from the 4 collages I’ve created above ?
Thank you for all the support, comments, love, and advice!!!