I had reached some really low points emotionally while battling ‘breast cancer’ this past year. The very thought that cancer had invaded my body was enough to turn my world upside down. I felt hopeless…lost….confused and deeply hurt. I initially cried a lot, stopped eating, and closed myself off from the rest of the world. How could anyone ever look at me the same? Why did I have to get cancer? When you’re a woman you worry about everything, especially physical (beauty) or your appearance in general ….our society is built on it. After losing all my hair during chemo, then both my breast after bilateral surgery, I had to learn to LOVE and ACCEPT the new me.
I was so moved by a recent article that I read on Essence online http://ow.ly/h4JWA
written by a poplar makeup artist in defense of what she believed was online bullying of her clients after she posted a before and after photograph of her clients. Initially when I saw the photographs, prior to the article, I was like wow she does an amazing job of bringing out the inner beauty of these women. I wasn’t surprised to find out after the fact that people were being overly critical of the people featured in the photographs.
I see it so often online, this ongoing bullying, harsh comments, and people really going in on others just because. I was pleased that the makeup artist came out in defense of her clients because she’s absolutely right, we don’t all have flawless skin or bodies like models but that doesn’t make us less beautiful at all!
At times my skin is clearer than others, for the most part I have minimal break outs but that was not always the case. I can remember going through high school blemish free but having acne issues during college. I tried everything at the time, changed my diet, used a million different products, and eventually the acne just stopped, I couldn’t tell you what I did or didn’t do to make it go away.
|Photograph by makeup artist used in article
I wish people weren’t so quick to judge but that’s asking a lot these days, it’s like open bashing season online. It makes me wonder how they would have felt if they saw only the made up picture first and then the original picture after, we can only stay hidden behind our makeup, hair extensions, and clothing for so long. We are all human beings, so very different, yet so very similar at the same time and that’s what I believe makes us all so beautiful.
What a year it’s been, hard to believe this is my final post of 2012. I had lots of fun and I’m already looking forward to 2013 and the fun fashion journey ahead. I started focusing on my OOTD in late June of this year and loved it. I’ve learned so much about me by doing this online diary. It’s taught me to love and appreciate every inch of my body. At times we can be our own worst critics but I’m understanding that only I can love me so if I don’t then I shouldn’t expect others to love me and uplift me more than myself.
I’ve changed so much over the year, it’s been a roller coaster ride, I had some great times and not so great times but I’ve grown tremendously from it all. I wouldn’t change a thing because it’s made me stronger and more determined than ever before.
My Goals for 2013
- Refocus back on my first love, my jewelry business Accessories We Love.
- Continue to grow my blog through the various social media platforms.
- Work on different ways of engaging my current and future audience
- Stay focused, humble, motivated, and positive throughout the year 😉
What are some of your goals? Anything in particular you want to work on in 2013?
Which of my personal style series do you like from the 4 collages I’ve created above ?
Thank you for all the support, comments, love, and advice!!!
It’s approaching a full two years since I began blogging. I originally started out with two blogs and eventually decided it would require too much time, so I canned the idea early in the process. I started blogging just as an outlet and for possible ways of spreading the word about my accessories business. It’s been my own little cyber world, a view into my life, and a way to share my personal style and things that interest me with readers. I’m not here to inspire those who don’t want to be inspired. My attitude is, if you like what my blog has to offer, you’ll visit often, maybe leave a comment, or remain anonymous but enjoy what you see. If you don’t then there’s absolutely no reason for you to visit, right? After all there are so many bloggers in the cyber world.
I’ve enjoyed the blogging journey. At times I’ve come to that fork in the road, not sure of what to post or offer readers. It happens, I call it “vlogging block”. It’s challenging at times to blog and balance personal life struggles and busy schedules. I take breaks, reflect often, and redirect my energy back to blogging once I feel up to it, no rush necessary 😉
I hope to continue my blog and this running diary of my personal style for as long as I possible can in the coming years. Enjoy the journey lovies!